Yesterday was terrible. JJ was walking a thin line. He was constantly testing my patience and won. I was strung out. I just can’t figure out what to do with him and how to handle his behavior. I feel at a loss.
Today we are pseudo-snowed in because John took my car to work since it handles better in the snow. George has a bad cold – so we cancelled our day anyways. So we are cocooning. This is my friend Marsha’s term. She is an empty-nester, so her idea of cocooning looks a little different than ours. I’m sure it’s quieter.
But cocooning to us, consists of any or all of the following:
- Wearing the most comfortable clothes with slippers or woolly socks with treads
- Creating a “big” project that may or may not continue throughout the day; today it is a tent around the island in our kitchen.
- A laidback attitude that nothing needs to be accomplished. (this is for me)
- Comfort Food; for lunch today we had grilled cheese and tomato soup , later we’ll make some hot cocoa
- A movie together in my bed; today it was Willy Wonka
Through all of these things, hopefully we’ll discover more time. Time for each other, time to really listen and time to rest. It hasn’t been easy, JJ has been sassy and the sibling rivalry is constant. But, it’s not to the extreme and I’m a little more mellow. In our cocoon today, my hope is that we are less fragmented as a family. And that, through a little quality down time, we’ll be a little more connected and understand each other better. We’ll see.
